Live in joy, In love, Even among those who hate.
Live in joy, In health, Even among the afflicted.
Live in joy, In peace, Even among the troubled.
Look within. Be still.
Free from fear and attachment,
Know the sweet joy of the way.”

– The Buddha

Mindfulness is about living my life,
collaboratively and relatively calmly,
allowing me to be myself while
still being respectful of everyone else around me
– Ari Weinzweig, CEO Zingerman’s

As you probably know, meditation is the practice of setting quiet time aside and turning your attention to a single point of reference (anchor) like your breath, body sensations, sights, sounds, or word mantra.

BUT maybe you DON’T want to meditate (it’s not for everyone!) – or you just want to complement your meditation practice. Why not give mindfulness a try?

Ari Weinzweig’s mindfulness definition (see above) really resonates with me as well as Ellen Langer’s. Langer is professor of psychology at Harvard University and claims you don’t need to meditate to be mindful, describing mindfulness ….as the process of actively noticing new things. That as you notice new things that puts you in the present.

I think of a mindful leader as someone who brings out the best in oneself and others by consistently “showing up” present, grounded, and compassionate—especially in challenging situations.

Tips to Be a More Mindful Leader!

Journal – Write down how you want to “show up” for the day. Write it down on a note card, put it in your pocket, and periodically check in with yourself, “How am I doing?” At the end of the day, check in and journal about how your day went.

Prepare – Take a few minutes to prepare yourself for an upcoming meeting. This will help you be more proactive (versus reactive) in how you engage. By simply preparing for a potential conversation, you will be able to remain more grounded and calm. Plus, as one of my clients shared, you might even get a good night’s sleep the night before a challenging situation.

Choose learning and curiosity over judging – This will help keep your emotions, body language, energy level, and mindset positive, enabling you to “show up” in a more thoughtful versus reactive mode.

Take the balcony view – Be a third-party observer in your own conversation. That way, you’ll be able to have a bit of distance and remain grounded and calm.

Get grounded – Feel your feet on the floor, breathe, and count to three.

Hit the pause button – Avoid blurting out the first thing that comes into your mind. Instead, take a moment to breathe and think about your response.

Stop multitasking – Think you’re doing a good job at juggling everything? You’re only kidding yourself if you think you’re doing a good job at anything, if you aren’t giving it your full attention.

Center yourself several times a day – As you jump from meeting to meeting in the course of a day, periodically remind yourself to take a deep breath and focus on the present moment. You’ll become more centered and less distracted.

Get physical – Jog, walk, swim, kayak, dance, try Yoga… Find some form of enjoyable, energizing exercise that enables you to clear your head and get perspective.

Renew on a daily basis – Activate your parasympathetic nervous system, also called the renewal system, by engaging in energy-replenishing activities, such as listening to music, painting, reading, praying, or spending time with friends and family. Establish a consistent daily routine. Don’t wait until you’re burnt out; it’s tough to binge renew.

Get a good night’s sleep – Sleep reduces stress, restores brain function, and is important to self-control, memory, attention, learning, and problem solving. Going to bed a bit earlier is one of the fastest ways to reenergize in the midst of a long and stressful work week.

Power off your cell phone before and after bedtime – Give yourself the gift of time off from answering to other people by turning off your PDA for a set period of time before bed – and in bed – as well as on the weekends. If you can’t turn your phone off for an extended period, at least find small blocks of time where you can choose to go offline.

Appreciate what you have – Keeping track of what you’re happy and grateful for will help you maintain better perspective, boost your mood, and lower your levels of the stress hormone cortisol. This is also an excellent practice to do before bed: spend two minutes focusing on someone or something new that you are grateful for and why.

Do a small good deed – Whether you help an elderly person cross a busy street or hold the elevator door for a frazzled coworker, you will remember what it feels like to be the kind and considerate person you are when you’re not in a hurry – and helping others is one of the fastest ways to get a dopamine hit!

Cut back on coffee – Caffeine is a powerful drug that triggers the release of adrenaline. Increased levels of adrenaline lead to stress and anxiety because they spur a “fight or flight” response. It’s hard to make a decision and “show up” rational (versus reactive) when the blood has literally left your brain.

Take a break – If you lose your objectivity or become triggered, ask to take a five-minute coffee, tea (decaf!) or bathroom break. Use it to center yourself by reminding yourself of how you want to “show up.”

Who made the world?

Who made the swan, and the black bear?

with your one wild and precious life?

—Mary Oliver, “The Summer Day”

“I’m in a high state of arousal and if I can have a relaxed receptivity and stay present to it, then I’ll be in flow.” – George Mumford

Often executives share with me that they need help managing the stress of success, that is figuring out to how stay present, engaged, and grounded when they feel an upswing in their energy levels (e.g., anxiety) that results from meeting new challenges and opportunities.

George Mumford, author of the Mindful Athlete and meditation teacher to Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, and countless other NBA players, is grounded, practical, and inspirational.

He explains how your mind can trip you up or make things better – and how to be more mindful, in the moment, and in the zone. Mumford talks about the stress of success in terms of the anxiety associated with talent, freedom, and possibility. He calls this dizziness of freedom and goes on to say that you can manage the stress (and anxiety) through mindfulness and ultimately, find your greatness, something he calls your own Michelangelo masterpiece within.

Key concepts:

• We don’t know when flow is going to happen
• Mindfulness makes you flow ready but you need the right conditions for it to occur
• Conditions include being present, creating space, having a relaxed receptivity, proper mindset, right effort, and making wise choices

He also shares his four tips for optimum brain growth, something he calls his Brain Fitness Program.

1. Oxygen levels have to be high enough to generate new brain cell growth, the process of neuroplasticity.
2. Easy does it. New challenges have to be done in an incremental fashion. I often say to clients, incremental success is more important than ambitious failure.
3. The challenge must be doable but still out of your comfort zone. In other words, the new challenge should feel like a stretch but not so much that it is a strain.
4. There must be enough personal interest to stimulate the motivational circuits in the brain

Click here to watch this short, inspirational, 3 minute video by George Mumford, The Sports World’s Mindfulness Whisperer!

For a deeper dive, click here to watch this inspirational 15 minutes video: Mindfulness, Sports, & Performance with George Mumford and Rich Fernandez.

For a really deep dive (one hour 17 minutes) and click here to watch this interview with Dan Harris and George Mumford – from the 10% Happier podcast!

Or visit Amazon for Mumford’s book: The Mindful Athlete: Secrets to Pure Performance with Foreword by Phil Jackson (another mindful athlete master!)

While there are key similarities among highly effective entrepreneurs, sales people, and business leaders, there are also differences.

Some key differences, as pointed out by Waverly Deutsch in his article What Great Entrepreneurs, Salespeople, and Business Leaders Have in Common (Fall 2018 Chicago Booth Review), include:

Entrepreneurs 

• Motivated by a desire to own outcome
• Thrive in uncertain environments
• Natural salespeople with high persuasion skills
• according to Butler’s Insights CareerLeader Study

CEOs 

• Make decisions with speed and conviction, even when lacking data
• Engage for impact by aligning people around the goal of value creation
• Adapt proactively by thinking about the long term and acting quickly to change
• Deliver reliably on commitments and create accountability
• according to Kaplan and Serensen’s Insights gh Smart Study

Salespeople

• Enable others to act by collaborating on value creation
• Model the way by reliably meeting commitments
• according to Kouzes et al.’s Leadership Challenge Study

What leadership behavioral skill will you focus on? Whether you are an entrepreneur, CEO, or sales person, I encourage you to take time to reflect on what matters most to you and your team – so that you show up as more mindful leader, someone who brings out the best in oneself and others by consistently showing up grounded, present, and calm – especially in difficult situations.

For a deeper dive, read Waverly Deutsch in his article What Great Entrepreneurs, Salespeople, and Business Leaders Have in Common (Fall 2018 Chicago Booth Review) where he focused on 41 dimensions of leadership looking at leaders’ traits, and skills, interests.